A graceful life is not walking elegantly into a room, rather, its walking through life in a way that shows kindness, mercy and love to all we meet, just as God shows us (Heb. 4:16).
To live a graceful life is to give people what they do not deserve, what they have not earned and what they are not entitled to. It is a free gift, not because it is worthless, but rather, the cost is far beyond our means. Live a grace filled life and peoples lives will be changed (Eph. 2:8-10).
Legalism is attractive because it leaves the self, and its efforts, intact; grace, properly understood, leads to the death of self day by day, and counts it all joy (2 Cor. 4:16).